Coping with Insecurity The Cancer Woman in Love
The Cancer Woman falls in love as she does everything else slowly and cautiously. Impulsive action makes her uncomfortable, and she considers falling in love a serious commitment. Cancer wants from her man material security first, exclusivity second, and social status third. She is unlikely to fall in love with a man who does not offer at least two of these. The only thing that can propel her into an uncharacteristic rash choice is the occasionally unbeatable urge to leave home. Once she has...
Possessive Selfcentered Selfish
The Cancer Woman is apt to be so invested in her man that she becomes exceedingly possessive. She may try to turn anyone she loves into one of her children. She frequently fashions relationships in which she is the mother or authority figure on whom others become dependent. This position gives her a great deal of control, and though she is loath to admit it, it is often control she wants. She is insecure enough to be envious and jealous of people who appear in some way superior to her or who...
Gemini Sexuality
To understand the sexuality of the Gemini Woman, one must first understand the workings of her mind. This is no small task it is as labyrinthine as the circuitry of a computer. It is so tied to her complex inner nature that it seems inseparable from the total fabric of her life. She is indeed very sexual, uniquely and mysteriously so. There are various levels of understanding the complexity of the Gemini Woman. There are also infinite manifestations of the sign. There is probably more variety...
Cancer Anger
The Cancer Woman is often called crabby, and for good reason. She tends to have a simmering temper that typically explodes in theatrical displays. She also cries a lot, and it is difficult to tell how often she dissolves into tears from joy, and how often from anger. She tends to hold a grudge and to avoid discussion and confrontation. I interviewed several Cancer women, and here are some typical responses 1. I love a great cry 2. When I get angry, I must do something. I have to punch or throw...
How the Gemini Woman Relates Lovers and Other Intimates
Often the Gemini Woman's rather unrealistic approach to relationships isn't designed so much to fool those with whom she comes in contact as to serve as her own defense mechanism. She fears intimacy and reality and spends much of her energy in flight or fancy. She is often surrounded by many people, which hides her deep-seated feelings of loneliness not only from others but from herself. In her frantic quest to gain omniscience about people and circumstances, she often fails to use others as a...
Insecurity in the Cancer Woman
The Cancer Woman's insecurity is classic in that it probably started with self-rejection generated from babyhood impressions. However, the most compelling and universal reason for self-rejection is rejection by someone else. Deep down, Cancer may fear that self-knowledge and revelation would uncover not a narcissus but an ugly frog. She is self-protective all her life, partially because of this belief. Cancer, I advise you to make an inventory of all your assets. Concentrate especially on those...
GEMINI Opportunist
The Gemini Woman is a creature of the moment. She is so aware of change and its critical nature that she will grab an opportunity the instant it appears. She always sees at least two different ways to go and delights in making the proper choice that is, the choice she feels is in her best interest. She operates more by circumstance than by fixed principle. She has litde regard for consistency or consequences. She is more interested in how a particular situation affects her and how she can turn...
Introduction
I am a therapist who has spent a decade helping women in a variety of ways as founder and president of the Life Crisis Counseling Clinic and of the Flexible Careers Counseling Center, both in Chicago, and both concerned with helping people in the areas of relationships, sexuality, and health as a sexologist currently studying for a Ph.D. in human sexuality and as a teacher who has taught people around the world about love and intimacy, self-esteem, assertiveness, awareness, sexuality, and how...
Early Sex Experiences Kxu
The Cancer Woman generally seems extremely virginal and modest so much so that one often has the impression that she goes to her bridal suite without an ounce of sexual knowledge or experience. But appearances often deceive, and though there are some who wait to be deflowered on their wedding nights, most Cancer girls are early risers and early sexual bloomers. The mother or principal mother figure looms large in Cancer's upbringing. Sex may be shrouded in such secrecy that she receives no sex...
Neurotic Sex Drive Game Player
The Gemini Woman can be just as sexy as any woman of the Zodiac she merely loses interest quickly. She is intellectually interested in the idea of sex but often less concerned about the physical reality. In some ways she would rather watch than participate although she knows that sex is an important part of life. The Gemini Woman often uses sex to validate her ego. As long as she can attract and lure men, she feels young and romantic. When she gets a man to chase her, she feels she still has...
The Gemini Woman in Love
The words of Victoria Woodhull rather aptly characterize the Gemini Woman in love I am a free lover. I have an inalienable constitution and natural right to love whom I may, to love as long or as short a period as I can, to change that love every day if I please. Gemini needs a lot of patient understanding. She really needs and wants love what turns her off is the responsibility that comes with it. So long as she is the center of attraction for her man, she will move mountains for him. If he...
Patterns in the Gemini Womans Sexual Relationships
The concept of the primary relationship was tailored for the Gemini Woman. She doesn't make commitments easily because of her dual nature, her need for ever-changing scenarios, and her fear of being tied down. She won't directly confront this aspect of her personality instead she will bend over backwards to continue in a sexual relationship with one man while adding others to her stable. She sincerely believes in the Primary Commitment her involvement with other men is simply for variety She's...
Spendthrift
The Gemini Woman acquires knowledge readily and wants to put it to immediate and profitable use. She makes money easily and spends it with abandon. Her bank account is usually a mess. Both money and possessions slip through her fingers like running water. She will spend her last dollar for the sheer joy of spending. Being penniless seems to stimulate the Gemini Woman into new activity. Her motto is often Easy come, easy go. She feels there will always be ways to make more money, and her...
Summing Up Aries
In general, all the Aries woman wants is everything Her healthiest and most fundamental drive is to be totally in charge of herself and her own life. The Aries Woman is outstanding in courage and risk-taking ability. Her personality qualifies her to be a leader in the area of alternative lifestyles. Though she is jealous and possessive, she is also committed to adventure and social change. As she goes through various cycles, she can be difficult, bitchy, or demanding. She may take out her...
Gemini Personality
The Gemini Woman enlivens existence on this otherwise dull and predictable planet. Her fantastic imagination, graced with a lively wit and exhilarating charm, permeates her life, her speech, her attitudes, and her writings. Forever young, she can transmit this feeling to those around her. There is something highly refreshing about her personality. She takes pride in her ability to entertain and excite men. She so enjoys the chase that she has somewhat of a reputation as a tease, for she doesn't...
Early Sex Experiences
In matters of sex, the young Taurus girl tends to deal in extremes. She is either very conservative or very precocious. At one extreme, perhaps due to the loss or incapacitation of her mother, she may assume a great deal of responsibility. When she shares the duty of rearing brothers and sisters, she develops such an adult posture that she has little time for childhood games and few opportunities for sexual experimentation. With the responsibilities of an adult thrust on her, she will assume...
Love and Sex
Because the Taurus Woman's nature is binary, she is constantly seeking to unite the two parts. Sex and love are no exception. She recognizes that there is a close relationship between the two, but her logic sometimes confuses her. It usually follows that if a man loves her, he wants to have sex with her. This does not necessarily mean that if a man wants to have sex with her, he loves her. Her need for love and affection is as strong as her need for sex. Without love she can feel as empty as a...
Monogamy and Nonmonogamy
The Taurus Woman enjoys even requires monogamy in marriage. She works hard to provide comfort for her mate and her children. She'll even leave her precious home though not the care of it and take a job to insure the financial security so necessary to her existence and to insure that the protective bubble over her loved ones does not develop cracks. Normally, she will only risk upsetting the routine of her family life under the direst of circumstances. Once she has given up or, God forbid, been...
Taurus Personality
The Taurus Woman is sensual and seductive. Under a cool, calm, and intellectually aloof exterior, she possesses a whole arsenal of tools designed to attract her man and keep him. From the bedroom to the kitchen, she seems to hold in her genetic code total memory of things eternally female. Little wonder she is often called an Earth Goddess. When she enters a room, everyone is aware that she is there. She is beautiful, radiant, and magnetic. Often she wears the finest clothes, jewelry, and...
Aries Lifestyles
Monogamy is defined as sexual and emotional exclusivity. Stricdy speaking, this makes most Americans, married or not, nonmonogamous, for few people today are emotionally monogamous. But here I will use monogamy in the loose sense, meaning only sexual exclusivity. A woman may be looking for characteristics in a husband different from those she seeks in a lover. The Aries Woman is especially choosy when selecting a provider and father to her children. She knows herself to be capable of grand...
Taurus Sexuality
Taurus the Earth Goddess is a very sexual being. She may seem very placid and composed on the exterior, but underneath the rhythms of the earth beat strongly. Her sensual nature takes over in the bedroom. She makes an art of lovemaking. Scheherezade surely was a Taurus. Never undertake making love to a Taurus Woman unless a large block of time is available for her to express her repertoire. Just kissing her can bring some men to orgasm. Her touch, both gentle and tender, excites and caresses....
Taurus Relationships
Because the Taurus nature is so definite and deeply rooted, nearly all the traits delineated at the beginning of this chapter carry over into any relationship she endeavors to develop. Once she has made a commitment, she will put forth her best effort to make any of her many relationships work. She forms a wonderful half of any duo mate, best friend, co-worker, commiserater. She needs these one-on-one encounters to fulfill her curious yet complex nature. At the same time, she is a perfectionist...
Aries Anger
A major block to healthy sexual expression is anger, which is connected to low self-esteem and the feeling of being ineffectual. The struggle for self-esteem and a sense of importance as a person is a basic human concern. Sexuality in an angry relationship is not a source of pleasure, nor is it a basis on which a couple can share growth and build mutual respect. Repressed or improperly expressed anger is destructive to self-esteem and to relationships. Anger properly communicated and directed...
Aries Sexuality
The Aries Woman approaches sex as she does everything else in life zestfully, impulsively, and with total commitment. She gives all she has and takes all she can get in return. She is open to anything but don't ask about tomorrow sexual exclusivity is not her bag. The challenge of the hunt excites her. Aries is an exceptionally passionate, sensual, and sexual woman. Romantic, erode, and vain, she needs monumental reassurance from a sexual partner. When she feels insecure, she is jealous and...
Aries Relationships
The Aries Woman usually makes a complex, demanding, passionate mate and partner. She has the potential to create a finely tuned, balanced, exciting, offbeat relationship. Like Don Quixote, she is forever searching for an ideal. Where romance is concerned, Aries believes in giving but also wants the moon. She tends to become overinvolved with people and projects because she thinks this is giving. She may overdo to show her independence and separate identity, but her excesses may also be an...
Aries Personality
In her relationships, in love, in work, the Aries Woman demands challenge. She is dynamic and energetic, and she usually feels impelled to make an impact, to create change. She likes to be influential as the head of a household or business and tends to be outgoing, with a zest for living. She is frequently competitive, expecting to be first and hoping to be best in any endeavor she undertakes. She possesses the courage to tackle most situations and may be able to turn what many would regard as...
Judith Bennett
A Thomas Dunne Book An Imprint of St. Martin's Press sex signs. Copyright 1980 by Judith Bennett Copyright 1980 by Gerald Born, Joan Bowman, Kenn Calhoun, andjeannette Kossuth for the following chapters Taurus, Gemini, Sagittarius, and The Cosmic Woman Revisions 1996 byjeannette Kossuth All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in...